What's your common denominator?

Elementary eduation teaches us about fractions in arithmetic. Either adding or subtracting fractions requires that a common denominator is found before proceeding to the next step.

So it is with people whether you are adding someone into your life or subtracting someone from your life. It does not take a rocket scientist to figure out that I am speaking of relationships between men and women. (Naw, I am not speaking specifically of myself. Althought it applies to anyone.)

I have listened to many a story about the breakups or unions in black relationships. If I have not listened to it, I have read a novel concerning it. For the types of persons who have been in and out of relationships over and over and over and over and over, please evaluate each relationship for the common denominator. Don't look behind you. Don't look neither to the left, nor the right. Find a mirror and look at your pretty face, Honey! Its you Babygirl! Its you Babyboy! For each relationship (and I use that very loosely since we are in age of sexual openess) that ended, was it that persons fault? Seriously! What do you believe? Are you sure about that?

It does not have to be a relatinoship. It could be a set of failed business relationships. It could be a series of jobs you've had. What is the common denominator in all cases? Answer: Y-O-U! Pastor Kirbyjon Hines Caldwell loves to tell us that the definition of insanity is defined as doing the same thing over and over and over, yet getting the same result. While I will not call anyone insane, I will say this: Be HONEST with yourself!

If you attract friends who always lean on you for money, yet you hate hearing their sad story, find out what kind of vibe you put out that attracts that kind of person. Is it your desire to help another? Is it because you don't want to disappoint another?

For men who attract women who seemingly go after your money, is it because you're flashing it in their face and that is the first thing they see? Sometimes successful women meet men who may be intimidated by their fame, fortune or success. If that is you, what vibe are you putting out there to attract that person? For that Christian Gal who attracts men who are interested in her body only, but she can not figure out why since she met him in church....Honey, it could be that tight sweater that shows off the curves in your upper body or it may be that low cut dress that draws his eyes to all your ample goodness!

Its real simple people. Ask a fisherman what kind of bait he uses to catch catfish. Then ask him what kind of bait he uses to catch Gar fish. In fact, the good folks at Hobby and Lifestyle http://www.hobbyand lifestyle.com state it best "There are hundreds of different types of fishing bait you can use depending on what time of year or season you're fishing in, what environment you are in (streams, rivers, ponds or deep ocean) and many other variables."


The only thing you can do is change you. Change so that you attract what you really want. If your desire is to meet a kind person, be kind. If your desire is to meet and mingle with business professionsls, place yourself in the right environment to do that. Don't sit there complaining about the other folks, make different choices. Marinate on that!